How many times have we found ourselves regretting something? How many times do we stand in disbelief we did something again we swore we wouldn’t do? I get upset at myself for not training hard enough, not being a better coach, and neglecting my wife. Good. I should be upset about those things, and you should be upset at missing your mark.
Hamartia is the Greek word for sin. It literally translates as missing the mark. We strive for something, but don’t achieve it. Primarily this applies to living a moral life in the context I am used to studying it, but hamartia should be a mindset for all our endeavors. We SHOULD aim for goals, and we SHOULD be upset when we miss them. This “fed-upness” as I call it is what promulgates change in ourselves.
We get so sick of what we have been doing, we get so fed up with our hamartia, that we stop missing the mark. I spoke with a client struggling with binge eating about this, and she asked me how to control her food intake better. My reply was simple: JUST STOP IT. You see, she would get all these thought processes going about why she should or should not over-indulge. But the one thought she wasn’t thinking was the one she needed.
Just stop it. Stop missing the mark. Stop eating that extra cupcake. Stop wishing you had trained more optimally. Stop wishing you had competed. Start getting closer to the mark instead of constantly missing it. Start cutting those calories with new discipline, start training harder with more intent, and just stop missing the mark without doing anything about it.
The Aspie Coach