I can kill my motivation so fast it isn’t even funny. I see countless people do it daily. A mentality cancer sets in and the day goes downhill without hope. This is the result of excuses.
When we find ourselves justifying behavior, chances are it is an excuse. Who ever needed to justify doing something right? Doing something that is intrinsically right needs no justification as it is self evident to be good. We have to justify wrong in order to actually commit it. How does this apply to health? Take a look at this list and tell me how many you have said:
- I worked so hard today, so I will skip my training
- I need a mental break, so I will eat that tub of ice cream after I finish my brownies
- I love my body the way it is (this one is truly painful, I’ve been to the point of hating my own body and I tried this lie to no avail)
- My genetics prevent any change at all
- I’ll switch to strength training, because then I can eat whatever I want
- I’ll do crossfit so I can eat whatever I want
- I am just plain going to eat whatever I want anyway because I’m a grown adult
Ouch. I’ve heard these from myself, clients, and friends alike. Now, rare instances do occur where some (very few) people can eat whatever they want and not gain a pound. Others like me have to limit calories strictly, otherwise we balloon up. This isn’t a reason to not try, it is a reason to stop comparing yourself to others and start making progress based on where you have already been.
We can come up with any excuse for anything; ask my wife, I am the master of excuse making. This article is hitting me hard right now, especially in off season. I allowed myself to eat so much junk food with the excuse of “I’m in off season.” Yeah, it backfired and didn’t work. In fact, I had to do a mini-cut to get things reasonable again! Good grief…
So how do we deal with excuses? Community. Coaches. Mentors. People literally hire me to teach them how to lose weight, put on muscle, and get stronger; what these people don’t initially realize is 75 percent of what I do is help them beat their excuses. It takes a mentality change, and it is hard work (see my post “Autism In The Gym”). But we are capable of rising above our excuses to become the apex version of ourselves.
The Aspie Coach